Playing well with others

I realized the other day that I do not play well with other people. Well that’s not true. I actually don’t hang out with other people very well. I am relaxed person by nature, it takes a lot to stress me out. Heck, look at my week. I work from 9am to 5pm three days a week, from noon to 5pm two days a week, I have a Zumba class; which is an hour-long by the way; two nights a week, I take a ballet class one night a week, and  teach a children’s dance class two afternoons a week. And that has nothing to do with my weekends. It’s summer so I am trying to get Savie in the pool to swim and have a garden at home to take care of as well as the one that is here at my studio.

I have invited my friend S along on several outings with Savie, mainly because her daughter J is my daughter’s best friend. I thought it would be relaxing but it is so far from relaxing. Last week we went to a ball game here in town and the entire time she was freaked out by what her daughter was doing, where was she, is that normal? I chalk a lot of it up to the fact that she doesn’t spent a lot of time with her. She works full-time so I have her all day and then on the weekends she’s tired. She’s a single parent doing the best she can with what she ahs to work with but it is driving me crazy. I don’t know what to do. I mean I want to hang out with her but it’s a drain on me mentally because she’s always asking me if she’s doing the right thing, if she responded to what just happened the right way, etc. No one is perfect and you have to make mistakes to find the right way that works for you.

So this is my question, do I continue to invite this person to do stuff with us even though I am emotionally drained by the end of the outing?

County Fair

Today was the last day of the Cochise County Fair. We went as a family this year, a first for us. He doesn’t usually go with us so I was shocked when he said that he wanted to go. But back on topic, the county fair. It was fun. This year we went with another family of four and I invited one more to go along with us so we ended up being to families of four and single mom. It was fun. I of course, was running late to leave the house this morning so we got there later than planed. Once we got there and started I almost immediately lost hubby. Now I can laugh about it but it wasn’t that funny when it happened because I had two girls and we were wandering around the livestock, looking at the pigs and cows before moving onto the pygmy goats and lambs.

After eating, which was a little hard for me being on Atkins and all,  we moved onto the displays of clothing and art. There were some beautiful pictures on display while I didn’t see a single thing that was crocheted or knitted. There were plenty of things from the kids, local schools and what not, but nothing I saw that was hard to make but that’s just me. Next year I really will enter something in the fair. I wanted to give the kids plenty of time to let their food settle in their stomachs before going on rides, even though they weren’t that wild of rides but you know what I mean. I didnt want to take the chance that someone would get sick. We never made it to rides with the other family. They faded out before we left the stingrays. But my girls hung tough and did their rides and even won a prize each. They had so much fun. We know for next year to go on Saturday, late in the afternoon so it’s a bit cooler and also let them see the lights. I think last year when Savie and I went we left just as it was starting to get dark and we was sad that she didn’t get to see the lights.

I am totally wiped out and have to really focus to write this. I wish that she had crashed sooner but oh well, take what you can get right? I’m hoping that this week will be better for her in school since things haven;t been so great. She has really been acting out and I don’t know what to do. (If anyone has suggestions I’m all ears) But it’s late and I need to get to bed. Have a great week everyone.

Busy, busy just the way I like it

It’s spring and that means busy weekends for me. The Farmer’s Market wil start just after Earth Day and that means that every Sat. morning I will be there. As long as weather permits. So my Sat.  are gone, or at least for now, changed or put on hold. I will have my day to do my stuff but that will have to change until the end of summer.

This month alone my weekends are packed. Today I had a hair appt and then was going to go to Frontier Days but the wind was blowing so bad that I was not about to put myself or Savie out in that for some rides and maybe some games so instead we did a lot of shopping. Tomorrow we are going to the mountains for Stone Mole Weekend. We have gone every year since we moved here so it’s tradition.

Next weekend we have the car show here in town, a birthday party, and an art walk after 5. After that I am going to a dance at a local club here so I will be very tired come Sunday.  The weekend after that is the Car show in Sierra Vista and a hair appt for both of us. So that leaves what? The last weekend of the month not planned out yet right? But that, is only a matter of time.

I tried

I really did. I had no plans for today, haven’t bothered to look at the sale papers, see what my local favorite place is having for lunch or dinner but I have to buy something. But it’s important at least to hubby it is. The cell phone bill. It’s overdue so that is all I am paying for today. Does that count?

But in a happier note yesterday was fun. I stayed up late the night before only to find out that the cheesecake I was going to make couldn’t be made because I had no sugar! That’s right sugar. I had already been to the store on Tuesday but still needed to make one more run to the store. But I saw a few people I hadn’t seen in awhile so it’s ok.

The turkey turned out great, a little dry he said but that’s ok with me. There was stuffing, sweet potatoes, broccoli, and rolls, everything you need to make a Thanksgiving dinner, right? After we got everything made and ate Savie asked me at least 15 times if she could have cake, the cheesecake. I told her that it wasn’t time for that yet. That what happens on Thanksgiving goes  like this.First you wait hours to eat because the turkey is not done, then you eat way to much, take a nap while watching football, and then after you wake up you eat a little more and then have cake. She was so cute telling me she just wanted “a little bit”. I had a feeling that even thought it was only 4 when we finally had cake she would be asleep soon. And I was right. If I had really been thinking I would have taken some pictures of the turkey and the rest of the food, Savie asleep in the chair, and everything else. We had a lot of fun and there is plenty of food left to make plenty of things in the next month or two, lol. Hope you all had a filling day not just in your stomach but in your heat as well.

Sum up Saturday

This week has been a great week. The weather has been nice, school was great and evn this morning at the Farmer’s Market was good.

Last week wasn’t so hot. One of my kids, B, fell hard and scarped his face up really good. We were on our way to the park to get some leaves and pine cones for an art project and had only made it around the corner when one of the other kids had to stop because she walked out of her shoes. B walked around us, took a couple more steps and then fell face first onto the cement. I almost cried,  it was just so bloody. He nose, two places on his cheek, and his lip was spilt. I felt so bad. His mom was OK with it, at least she was while she was at school but who knows what she did when they were in the car or at home. But they did come back the next day.

But back to this week. There were no problems all week long. Savie and I did our usual stuff on the two days off we had, did a little shopping, hung out at the house, stuff like that. We didn’t stay for class on Tues I don’t remember why but then Thursday we did. But that’s OK after making several batches of applesauce I was a little tired.

This morning rolled around and it was off to the Farmer’s Market. I love the fact that it has been extended until the middle of next month. Usually it ends at the end of October but there was a demand, and a lot of crops going to waste, so they extended, yeah! Anyways since Savie has her bike she wants to ride it all the time. So we loaded up the bike and drove down to the park. (Before you ask why didn’t we just ride down there it’s because we live at the top of a hill and had other things to do afterwards). She was so cute. I really wish I had taken some pictures. She’s getting better every day that she’s on it. She rode all around the market, then up the street to school and back. She was almost to fast for me on the way back,lol.After that it was time to head up to ‘Ol Bisbee and the library. Returned a few books, got some new ones and then got coffee. Made a quick stop at the Co-op to grab a few things and then home to watch the Boise State game. (GO BIG BLUE!) Poor baby fell asleep before the game even started. I had a feeling that would be the case.

All in all it was a great day and now she is asleep in bed after a small dinner and a short shower with Halley. They are so cute.

A quickie

OMGoodness!!!!!! I just made my second, yes second, batch of homemade applesauce and this one is sooo much better then the first one, that I made an hour ago. Yummy!! I think I’m going to have to buy some of those Bell canning jars but the kind that can be frozen seeing as how I have a whole bag of Granny Smith sitting outside.

Happy Halloween

Yes I know that it’s late but hey, that’s me.

We had a great Halloween. We both dressed up as fairies with wings and wands. Only when we left school to go trick-or-treating we couldn’t find either one. Oh well off we go. We went with a couple of friends from school J with her mom S, R with his mom R, and N with his mom M. We were a cute little group of four. We walked the entire Vista, which is about a mile to walk both sides of the street, and even made an appearance at the Manson at the end of the street. Afterwards we went back the school so I could do my part at the party. I had a bucket ‘o worms” for the kids to put their hands in for a prize. I didn’t think the older kids would like it but there was one girl that get mad at her mom because she didn’t get her turn, but only a little mad. I felt bad for her. I didn’t think it would be that big of a hit but just goes to show that it’s the little things that help.

I’m not one for strict bedtimes but seeing as how Savie didn’t take a nap that day and it was almost 9pm she needed to go home. Hubby came and got her and that was the end of that. I thought there would be more of a fight from her because she’s leaving the party early but she was OK with it. When I got home hubby said that she was fine with not being able to eat any of her candy. I told her before we even started trick-or-treating that she wouldn’t get to eat any of it that night, maybe the next day but not that night. There were a couple of kids at the party that were having a crying fit because they couldn’t have any more candy.

I think that’s one of the problems that some parents have. They don’t tell their kids beforehand, what is going to happen. I’ve noticed that when I do this with her things go a lot better then when I don’t say anything to her. I have to remember to do that more often.

How was your Halloween?